Today I connected dots. Not on a white sheet of paper but in my mind. I'm listening to an audio book called How to Win Friends and Influence People, a classic and an absolute gold mine worth of information. As the book goes, the author gives out principles I carefully note in my phone.
My phone is a gold mine too.
Before even reaching the first principle of chapter one Dale Carnegie, the author, stated:
On my way in and out of my residence a guard stands in front of the main door. I used to just say "Nihao" upon entering or exiting as I used my magnetic card to open. Nihao obviously translates to "Hello" in English. Which ever guard would nod at me as a "I heard you."
I recently started to say "Nihao" from behind the gate, making him understand I needed him to open it although having my pass in my back pocket. It obliges the guide to step down from his little stand and relax his constipated position. He can also stretch his legs and move his arms a bit. But that's not my point.
Above all, I grant him the feeling of importance. What is he good for just standing there? Nothing, and he knows it. But if he is asked to open that gate with a smile and receives a "thank you", he instantly feels important. Perhaps he forgets how unimportant his job is and feels important as a person.
He has not only done something for me; he has done something for himself.